Rain or Shine and Being Kind

Jen & Eve

This is me and my very talented and arty friend Eve (of Myriad Studios). We did our first little show together this past weekend called Rain or Shine. A small little church affair to help raise some money for a non-profit. This was my first time really getting my stuff (and Victoria’s) out there in a formal way. I really put a lot of energy into the table and having myself ready with actual business cards and of course work to show.

Here are some shots of our table.

Jen & Victoria’s table side

Eve’s table side

A close up of Victoria’s beautiful skulls with the exception of the one on the far left – that one I created. I suppose I could have gotten some better close ups…..sorry about that!

Victoria’s Beauties (except far left)

So I went to the event really trying to have no expectations. I knew I had done the best I could at this point and time so I wanted to let go of the results. Just go and have fun – and for Lord’s sake SMILE! Stay positive and upbeat no matter what the day had in store.

Overall I had a great time and met some really wonderful and encouraging people. BUT….yes, there always seems to be a but….there were two people who made remarks that hit a bit hard. The first was easy enough to blow off, but the second was delivered in such a back-door, underhanded, passive-aggressive way that it unfortunately stuck to me more than I’d like to admit. It was one of those comments that I had to pause, look at Eve, and confirm with her that I’d just been insulted.

Why is it that I forget all the positive comments and zero in on the one hurtful comment? Am I the only one that tends to do this? I wish I didn’t and I am working so hard on not. A good dose of gratitude usually does the trick. But I think what trips me up more than the actual comment is the need to be unkind in the first place. I just don’t understand¬†why some people feel the need to be unkind. I certainly understand that not everyone is going to like my work – I get that – different strokes for different folks and all that. But why does someone feel the need to express unkindness to another? What’s that about??

I guess I better grow some thicker skin because I plan to keep putting myself out there and will hopefully be doing a couple more local shows this fall and winter. But if I could just make a suggestion to the human race it would be this: Be Kind-rewind. If you are of a certain age group as I am, you may remember that saying from the VHS rental stores. So I would just say if you have an unkind thought that goes through your head that you feel about to slip out your mouth Рhit the pause button Рand rewind. Pull it back in. Kindness DOES matter.